Financial Survivor or Victim

Many Americans have experienced financial, family or physical tragedies over the past few years. Their financial outlook has gotten worse because of the recession. This has caused many Americans to give up, lose hope, lose faith and become confused, lost, afraid, stressed, anxious, angry and resentful.

These feelings can cause one to make poor decisions and choices in their lives. The first key to dealing with these emotions is to acknowledge them. Once you acknowledge your feelings don’t allow your feelings to control you. Next, think about what you can do to overcome your current situation and find a solution. You can’t change what happened but you can change how you react to it and how you deal with it. To do this you determine if your behavior is that of a survivor or a victim.

A victim:
1. Makes excuses
2. Looks for handouts
3. Waits for someone to help them
4. Doesn’t take responsibility for their actions
5. Doesn’t seek professional help
6. Refuses to change their current situation
7. Doesn’t accept reality
8. Is unable to implement a solution
9. Stays in a spiraling state of emotion (stress, frustration, anxiety, etc.)
10. Doesn’t have a plan of action
11. Unable to recover from a crisis

A survivor
1. Doesn’t make excuses
2. Develops a plan to solve problems on their own
3. Seeks professional help
4. Lives in reality - accepts the current situation but remains focused on future goals
5. Takes responsibility for their actions
6. Doesn’t wait for someone to help them
7. Uses emotional intelligence to manage feelings (eqi.org/eitoc.htm)
8. Uses resources such as self-help books, educational television shows, law of attraction, etc.
9. Survived previous crises and learned from the experience

Here are 8 steps to overcome a financial crisis.
1. Focus on how to solve the problem rather than focusing on the problem
2. Spend money without feeling guilty – you feel guilty because you are not living below your means
3. Use cash vs. credit to save you money
4. Have faith that your financial situation will improve – law of attraction
5. Pay off credit cards at the end of each month to avoid paying interest and finance charges
6. Have a savings account, checking account and retirement account which helps you plan for the future
7. Have at least 6-12 months worth of savings in an emergency fund to help with unexpected expenses or a financial crisis

To become a survivor of any financial crisis you have to change your mindset. “If you do not attract what you want to be, you will be what you are, forever” by Ankur Sancheti.